Entitlement

I sure hope that you all know what I mean when I say that America has problems. And if there is one culprit, I would say that it is our culture that has created many of these problems. We are not a loving and community based society. We are surrounded by selfishness, and in turn, we often seek to satisfy our own wants in order to try and gain some sort of satisfaction. One of the biggest lessons I know I learned while growing up was the difference between want and need. I want that sweater, but I do not need it. I want that playstation, but I do not need it.

I see this issue in our society way to much. And it is especially evident with the holidays coming up. Our greedy little hands open up the magazine, look through all of the new treasures in the store, and watch as the Black Friday sales bring down the costs of our hearts selfish desires, more and more. And although this problem is one that not everyone will feel the same about, there is a little bit of this in all of us. We all have this selfish desire to receive things we don’t need. And that isn’t to say that it is all American, of course human nature is to blame. But this selfish desire is a root that runs deep within all of us.

Who of you out there know a child who will bang their fists on the ground and scream at the top of your lungs in order to get what they want? Now who of you actually were that child? I know that I am no stranger to that thinking process. I remember throwing these ridiculous temper tantrums as a child. I look back and I smile at my foolishness. But, am I really all that different now? I still see things that I want, and even though I’m not rolling around on the ground out of agony because I just want that one little thing so bad, I still look at my bank account and make myself upset because I know I should save my money and not spend it. So although maturity is a factor here, I still feel that deep desire for something that I do not need. And no matter how many times I attempt to satisfy that want, I know that I will always want more. I’ll find happiness in that thing for a moment, but it won’t be long until my eye catches a new object.

One of the things that drives me crazy is when we turn that want for a physical thing into the want for someone else to treat us a certain way. I see this especially in the relationship between working people and their customers. I know I have watched my fair share of people treat a waitress like crap- as if she is the reason that they are having a terrible day, or as if she spilled that coffee on purpose. Although, with how rude everyone is these days, I wouldn’t expect anything less from the waitress to spill some coffee on that person who treated her like dirt. Is that a double standard? Perhaps so. But who honestly cares. Don’t people deserve to know that they aren’t the center of the world? Their selfishness does not dictate everyone else’s lives. Mistakes happen and life goes on.

I feel like we are just living in a culture where we cater to everyone’s needs. Like, “Oh no, sweetie, you don’t have an iPhone?” Well suck it up. I’m sorry, but the standard of living that my generation has been taught is not realistic. We are filled with these grand ideas that we can go out, reach for the stars, and get anything we want. And I want to believe that as much as the next person, maybe even more because I want to be a writer. But sadly, I live in a world where I am very afraid that people do not read anymore. Regardless, people don’t seem to understand that you are not going to be handed everything you want. And it doesn’t even always come down to hard work. Sometimes life just isn’t fun and sometimes we have to make the hard decisions. But more importantly, most of the time, you aren’t going to get what you want. Of course, that doesn’t mean that we can’t be content with what we have, it’s just that people forget to count their blessings.

So what is the point of this blog post? Why should we care? Well the answer is simple: Entitlement. Entitlement is the answer. It all started back in who knows what time when the American dream was born. The dream that if you work hard, you will get the perfect family, food on the table, and a perfect house with a white picket fence. And where has America gotten? Well, to start off, we have a broken family unit which can’t survive because people haven’t been taught how to make it work. We have food on the table, but the kind of food that most people can afford is contributing to America’s obesity rates. Or, the food we buy has been touched by child slave labor, but we are Americans, so more often than not, we buy the food and try to forget that we are privileged. Then, we want the perfect house with the white picket fence, which we can only get if we have a good credit score and the want to be in debt for the rest of our lives. And guess what? If working hard isn’t good enough for the company that you work for, which you got with the college degree that society expected you to get and you are also in crippling debt for, then you will lose that job, and then lose your house and you won’t be able to pay off your loans.

So why do American’s feel so entitled? Why do we put these expectations on everyone around us and on ourselves to get whatever we want? It is rather ignorant, and yet it the undertone of our whole society. I hate it. Not that entitlement is all bad, but it gives us a bitter root- believing that we deserve this or that and we will do whatever it takes to get it. I want people to see that our society isn’t perfect, and by putting away these ridiculous feelings of entitlement, I think that we can make our society a happier and more loving place to live.

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Love is the Answer

We live in a world where there is so much hate. I have seen person after person- whether on the internet or in real life- be rude, inconsiderate, and judgmental. Sadly, the way that people are these days involves them thinking more about themselves than of others. Some people can be so caught up in their own world that they forget to consider how others feel and how what they do may affect them. 

An example of this that comes to mind is that my sister was at the store with her pregnant roommate. And as they were in an aisle, a woman came out of nowhere and full on pushed aside this very pregnant woman so that she could get some bread. I’m not joking here, she full on pushed her….for bread. And I can’t help but almost laugh out loud at how ridiculous that is. Naturally my sister got mad at the woman and when the woman realized what she did, she apologized. So I mean, it’s okay now; but like I said, people get so caught up in their immediate wants and needs that they forget to be kind. It’s a mistake that I think too many of us are guilty of. 

Now as a writer and vlogger, it is my dream to bring more love and kindness to the world. And please know, I’m not here to accuse anyone. I mean I’m just as guilty as the next guy. I’m selfish, opinionated, and judgmental. One of my worst human faults is that I don’t always think about my actions and I have hurt people because of that. Not to mention I am the most sarcastic person you will ever meet, and some people don’t understand that type of humor; so completely by accident, I have hurt people’s feelings.

The whole thing just breaks my heart though. People have made them self their immediate priority- to the point that they forget to be kind. Our world has become a place where people forget to show the love and kindness that every human deserves. And to be fair, I get that we all have bad days. It’s not always easy to be patient with the person who is at the counter or be kind to the waiter that messes up your order. But to be honest, no matter how bad my day is, is it ever worth ruining someone else’s day just because I have a short fuse? Every person matters. Everyone deserves to be treated kindly. 

But now our world has begun to step even further outside of this realm. I mean, I can’t even get my mind around the acts of terrorism that are becoming more and more frequent. I have no idea why some peoples hearts have come to the point where they perform such unspeakable acts. I wish that I could have been someone who could have influenced these people at a young age and have been someone who could have shown them love. Or even be someone who could have taught them that the world and the people in it have so much good to offer.

I feel deeply that right now there is so much need for every person out there to show as much love and kindness as they can offer. Every person and life matters. Everyone deserves to be treated as a person. And on top of that, I also believe that each person deserves to be forgiven. If not for their sake, but for the sanity of ourselves and our world. Although it’s not always possible to forgive and forget, we can still find ways to forgive so that we as a society can move on and deal with the bigger issues out there. I believe in my heart that love can heal. If only we can step into a new reality where the violence, hurt, and hate could end; then we could change this world for the better. 

Why Vlogging?

Why? Honestly the answer is simple. And yet, I don’t quite understand. Why do I want to vlog? Well I guess it’s because I want to make a difference in this world. No, I don’t want to be a Dan and Phil, I don’t want to be a Tyler Oakley, or even a Zoella. I want to be me. I want to use what God gave me and make a difference. I know that right now; with 8 subscribers, 4 videos, no real equipment, and the fact that I’m 10 years behind every established YouTuber; that I am practically nowhere. I don’t even know if I want to keep doing this. It’s almost embarrassing to be honest. I’m not that good and I haven’t found my niche. I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing, although there is no shame in trying.

I am honestly scared. I am an introvert by nature, probably why I always hide behind the paper. But I’m living in a world where I am afraid people have stopped reading. Everyone has such a short attention span these days. And I know for a fact that I have a loud voice. No, that doesn’t mean I have like a vocal loud voice- I mean that I feel my point of view has the potential to be valuable to the world. I believe that if I want to do something with my life, I just need to go out and do it.
So here we are world. I don’t know where this is going, and maybe I’ll even have decided in a month that this isn’t worth it. But I believe that I can at least give it my best effort. I want to help the people in this world. I know I can’t fix the world, I don’t think that any person can. However, that doesn’t mean I can’t try. The world needs people to step up; and I have the confidence and ability. I may not be the best person for the job, but hey, I’m learning. I can be who I am and that’s all that anyone can ask from me. So if you ever need a friend, come to me. I will help. That’s my best quality, friendship. I’ve sure been tossed aside a lot, so I know what it takes to be a real friend. I am here for all of you out there who feel alone. And please know that God is too; I believe that with all of my heart. Thank you.

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A Lack of Literature

I love reading classic literature. Especially in this fast paced world that we are living in; I can’t help but to love those old timey novels that hold so much logic and beautiful unique vocabulary. Am I the only one that craves those giant hardcover novels that you grab and read with a cup of coffee on dark rainy days? I’m sure that I’m not.

As I took my AP literature class this past year, I was ridiculously disturbed when I realized that our curriculum deprives many of its students from reading some of the most famous and classic pieces of literature in American history. And perhaps “deprives” is a little dramatic, but I personally was just one of the eight students to read the novels and plays, Hamlet, The Mayor of Casterbridge, The Death of a Salesman, A Streetcar Named Desire, The Awakening, and many more. And this was within a huge graduating class of 286 students! All of these pieces are rich and full of meaning that, in my opinion, more than just 8 students should be experiencing at a high school.

I think that it is more than fair to ask my school to give its students an education that will help us leave school with a full knowledge of what America is and how it has grown. And apart from the fast paced history curriculum where we have facts jam packed into our throats just so that we can pass an irrelevant test; I feel that Literature is the only other way to do that. I mean, why did churches in the past have book burnings? It’s because books give knowledge to people that they either didn’t previously know or don’t know much about. Yet our schools don’t seem to be utilizing the lack of book burnings these days, because none of my friends know anything about these incredible books which I have had the pleasure of learning so much about this past year.

So as I think about this whole ordeal, I can’t help but ask; how is my generation going to make sure that we make the world a better place? And I can only seem to think of the answer that we need to make sure that we learn from the past and improve our knowledge of the culture that we live in; including its history.

And yes, my generation is a very lucky one to have the resources that we do. I love that we have the internet and our fast paced communication. However, I feel that Literature is something that teaches people to concentrate, to care about things, to get invested in something but maybe not hold on to it too tight. We all need good stories. We all need fictional love. I just hope that the schools aren’t teaching us to disregard some of our country’s treasures; because that would be a shame. I understand that not everyone would want to read these books, but I don’t think that people should be leaving high school without the chance to have some of these classics under their belt.